I've been playing with the idea of creating video content. I'd like to provide some sort of educational video series that demonstrates various Tantric practices but is also sexy, smutty, and fun. I think a lot of people feel ashamed about watching porn. But there's nothing wrong with desiring visual stimulation while you love on yourself. Next time you are going to watch porn, see if you can turn it into an opportunity to be mindful.
First, pay for your porn. It's the most ethical way to consume porn. I know, it's a bummer when it's so easy to find free stuff online. But, seriously. Pay for your porn. If you've got an entertainer that you really like, I suggest doing some research to see if they have a website where they host private content. You can find a lot of wonderful entertainers on sites like ManyVids and Clips for Sale. I've got a few friends on there who have been encouraging me to create an account and start posting. I'm finding it all very exciting. Stay tuned and look out for links to my erotic video content. Coming soon!
Ok. Where were we? You found some juicy videos to watch and you're ready to start what the Taoists refer to as Solo Cultivation. Take a few nice deep breaths. Feel your breath move through your body. Notice sensations as they arise. See if you can commit to staying fully present as you enjoy this video. Notice how your body responds to what's happening on the screen. You will probably notice thoughts arise. When this happens, simply pause and make a mental note, 'thinking'. And then gently bring your attention back to experiencing the erotic movie, fully awake with every sensation in your body. Moment by moment. By moment.
See if you can slow down, take your time. There's nothing wrong with a quick wank. It's a great way to relieve stress. When I was in college, I would have these masturbation marathons during finals week. I'd be studying and have my vibrator next to me. Quickly getting myself off during 5 min study breaks. Sometimes I'd even do it while I was reading or typing with one hand. This was very self-soothing and in no way wrong. But this practice, I'm describing requires full attention.
This practice is about allowing yourself to completely immerse yourself in your experience. There's nothing else you need to do, but be here now. With your body as it rides the waves of pleasure. Take a few more nice deep breaths. Mindfully look at what is unfolding in the scene on your computer screen. See if you can watch it with fresh eyes, as if it's the first time you've ever seen that particular thing happening. Notice when your mind starts to wander or create stories. Gently bring yourself back to your body as it responds to what you are seeing in front of you. Invite all of the delicious pleasurable sensations to move through your body. Keep breathing. Deep, deep breaths. If a release is in your practice today, I invite you to say, ' yes' with your entire being. And ride that final wave of bliss.